Next time you are forced to be with someone you dislike, try imagining them as a 10 year old. Not only will this give you more compassion towards them, but you then can get a window into their younger self.
Our childhood years contribute greatly to our adult personalities. Not only do they shape our sense of identity, but they actually shape our brains. We all develop a "personal brain" that fires in a certain way unique to ourselves, based on our childhood experiences and environment. Who we are comes from who we were. By imagining someone as their younger self, we can get a window into how they developed and how their unique brains work.
University of California, San Francisco (UCSF) professor of neurobiology and psychiatry Sam Barondes provides this tip and others as he reads sections of his newly released book, "Making Sense of People: Decoding the Mysteries of Personality." In the book, he introduces a system to make sense of the people around us, tips to avoid bad personalities and how this might enlighten ourselves about our own personalities. He goes into details about your identity and how we construct our personal story. In this way, we can make better sense of the world around us and the people who occupy it.
- UCSF: Samuel Barondes, MD